Being on BindiDates
you're definitely going to come across South Asians of all different shades, religions and cultures.
And as you keep browsing, your curiosity of meeting singles outside your norm may increase. But, if you've thought it over and are prepared to take the plunge into self-discovery then you’re ready to read!
Yes we said “read”. It may not sound exciting but our philosophies definitely are! Now we warn you, the content below may result in bringing you out of your comfort zone and pushing your boundaries. Nonetheless, we understand our ideas may not be for everyone & but we welcome all open-minds.
Now without further ado, the key components to Finding Your Comfort Zone in a Relationship:
Making Religion your Own
Whether you’re Muslim, Sikh, Hindu or Christian, religion can be the common base for many. But if you’re equally comfortable in a church as in any other house of worship then your relationship with God is most likely a personal one. And if you’re content with sharing similar views regardless of which religion they stem from then you’re likely to be open to inter-religion relationships. For you it’s probably more important to find someone who can be humbled by a beautiful sunset or sunrise, the innocence of a child, and by all of nature's splendour and see God's creation in all of that. But just to keep things smooth, we definitely recommend having a talk before making things official. This is especially a good idea if you’re planning on having kids and are considering how you want them being raised.
Breaking the Race Barrier
Being a proud South Asian doesn’t mean you don’t enjoy every colour of the rainbow. It doesn’t matter if you were born and raised in your motherland or are a second, third or fourth generation Indian, it’s your time to start seeing in colour! There may be aspects of your culture that are very important to you. But, if you decided you don't necessarily need to be with someone who is also from that part of the world, so long as your partner shares a healthy curiosity about your heritage you’re good to go!
It’s ALL about Communication
This is key. If you cannot communicate with your partner then you might as well call it off. Communication occurs at many levels. It's intellectual. It's emotional. It's sometime through the spoken word and often through non-verbal dialogue. It's about knowing when to assert yourself and knowing when to concede. It's about maintaining your sense of self without letting your ego get in the way.
Daily Dose of Laughter
It’s very important that both you and your partner are able to laugh together, at yourself and each other! It’s a healthy component to have in a relationship and great for brightening up even the dullest moments in life.
Sharing is Caring
Being on the same page comes from sharing similar interests, core values and sense of purpose. If you've found that match, then it’s all about keeping your commonalities in sync and consistently learning and growing from each other.
One of the worse things couples do is to go through the motions of existence on auto pilot. Try and crave new experiences and approach life with a sense of adventure. We don’t mean go skydiving every other day but to make every moment together special. This could be as simple as making time for a long walk in your neighborhood, trying a different restaurant or asking your sweetheart for a quick living room dance.
It may be difficult to define but it’s a feeling that takes over your mind, body & soul. It’s that elusive sense of love, affection and attraction that gushes into you when you see someone. It’s that smile that has the ability to transform your darkest moments.
The most important aspect of any comfort zone is having mutual respect! To be able to give and receive with joy and to able to be together, yet value personal space is the back bone for every relationship.
What’s your comfort zone?