Confused in Love

Dear Laky,

I'm 20 years old and I have fallen in love. It's a good thing. I would like to get married one day. I also know he loves me. The problem is that I'm here in Canada, and he's in India. It hurts because we are never able to be together.

The other problem is that he is my cousin. I know it's wrong, but I love him so much. Should I fight for him or forget about him? A relationship like this would have never developed with my cousin's here, but I hadn't seen him since I was 8, so he didn't feel like family, he was just this guy.

What should I do?

Dear Confused in Love,

Its sounds like you are in quite the predicament. There isn't too much that I can say to you since there is a lot of information missing from your e-mail. In order for me to help I would need a more detailed history of events.

You haven't seen this person since you were eight years old. He's your cousin, how closely related are you? What is your intention, where do you want this to go and can you see it reaching that destination? Do your families know about your feelings for each other? These are just a few of the questions that you need to ask yourself. I can't tell you to forget about him or to fight for him, only you know the answer to that.

How did this relationship evolve if you haven't seen him since your were eight years old? There is a lot at stake here and I would suggest that you sit down and give it a great deal of thought. What are some of things that you have to lose and what do you have to gain. I get the impression from your e-mail that your family means a lot to you and that is the reason that you are so torn about this decision. Think about this with a clear head and weigh everything out very carefully and most of all, be honest with yourself.

I know that I may not have given you much help but I do not have enough information to give you anything more. There is a lot that you haven't told me and that makes it hard for me to provide you with anything concrete. I wish you all the best and hope that everything works out the way you want it to.